45% of boys are raised by single mothers. 78% of teachers are female. Very, close to 50% of boys have 100% feminine influence at home and 80% feminine influence at school. Toxic masculinity isn't the problem. The lack of masculinity is.
Leftist women (and perhaps most women) fear men they don’t know and trust. The progressive effort is to render men harmless. But women know at a much deeper level that only a strong and competent man can protect and provide as a mate. I think this conundrum is at the heart of their policy bind.
I remember thinking during the DEFUND THE POLICE debacle that this feminine concern for black criminals to the point of de-masculinizing the police would, in effect, create an environment so dangerous, that women would again require male protection.
Discourse around the Nicole Kidman flick Babygirl last year was kind of fascinating, because there was this premising to all the thinkpieces that the movie was about women's sexual empowerment. In order to read the movie like this, you basically need to tiptoe around what's actual empowering the lead. Namely, that a young, hot guy is giving her orders. Meanwhile, the husband at home, about as nice a guy as they come, can't bring her to climax.
I should emphasize, nice guy, not Nice Guy, the proper noun referring to incel-like figures who are not quote-unquote "really" nice and therefore deserve their emasculation. This contradiction is at the heart of a lot of mainstream gender ideology. Men must aspire to be nice guys, but never Nice Guys, and good luck figuring out what the difference is when the way their behavior is described is nearly identical.
Watching the therapist scene in ADOLESCENCE was excruciating. I couldn't help wondering whether it was deliberately unveiling the corruption that comes with this feminization project; why on earth did they sit this boy down with a woman who assumes he's a dreaded 'incel' seething with violence -at the age of 12?
What we have is women PROJECTING malice onto boys and men -- a narcissistic ploy to undermine them -- and CONTROL them.
Then we turn around and wonder why there aren't any 'good men.'
This essay (excellent work btw) reminds me of a boyfriend I had in my 20s, in the 80s, in the early aftermath of 'just get out of the marriage if you're not happy' era. His father for whatever reason had gone, leaving him to grow up in a houseful of sisters, supported by the church (this was in Amsterdam). I met him when he was 28; he was alarmingly unambitious, and had a serious drinking problem. He'd just gotten surgery, and took me to task -- practically weeping -- for not fawning with concern.
I remember thinking at the time that -- well -- I simply expected him to get on with it. He was a man, wasn't he? The pouting was particularly unattractive to me.
His sisters wound up getting him a better job, because THEY had better jobs. Then his wife became the breadwinner because SHE had a CAREER. He drank his feckless self into a death of despair.
I've been reflecting on his story, and the story of my ex-husband -- both men who, in the 70s, were betrayed by their fathers...and in my ex-husband's case, by his mother as well. Suffice to say, both men were broken almost beyond repair.
So this matriarchy we're in -- it's destroying boys and men. I'm not sure what the solution is. I've been arguing for revisiting the habit of divorce, which women in particular (not men, interestingly enough) seem to resist. But growing up in a culture that insists boys not act like boys -- with little opportunity to roughhouse and all else -- is going to take down our entire civilization, in the end.
Say what you will about Trump -- he's acting like a real man. Setting boundaries. Asserting authority. Dubious people do not belong in our country. Full stop. We have a culture and a country to protect. I've seen plenty of women bleeding hearts over that MS13 Kilmar guy. They just can't seem to perceive the wolf at the door.
"Of course, most men do not now perform difficult or dangerous jobs. Most of them don’t even perform real work (in our country at least)" you made this comment in the otherwise fantastic article but this comment confuses me. I don't have any data on the actual numbers but I would guess at a very minimum there are at least 10 blue collar workers for every man working in an office. The majority of those jobs are both difficult and dangerous. (All tradesman ie, plumbers, iron workers, carpenters, farmers, welders, miners, rig workers, electricians, Equipment operators and so on) and then of course law enforcement and the armed forces are skewed heavily male. Anyway, my two bits. Otherwise thought it was a really brilliant article.
45% of boys are raised by single mothers. 78% of teachers are female. Very, close to 50% of boys have 100% feminine influence at home and 80% feminine influence at school. Toxic masculinity isn't the problem. The lack of masculinity is.
The NYT presents a dude who dresses up in drag as their idea of a masculine male role model? Clueless.
Leftist women (and perhaps most women) fear men they don’t know and trust. The progressive effort is to render men harmless. But women know at a much deeper level that only a strong and competent man can protect and provide as a mate. I think this conundrum is at the heart of their policy bind.
I remember thinking during the DEFUND THE POLICE debacle that this feminine concern for black criminals to the point of de-masculinizing the police would, in effect, create an environment so dangerous, that women would again require male protection.
Discourse around the Nicole Kidman flick Babygirl last year was kind of fascinating, because there was this premising to all the thinkpieces that the movie was about women's sexual empowerment. In order to read the movie like this, you basically need to tiptoe around what's actual empowering the lead. Namely, that a young, hot guy is giving her orders. Meanwhile, the husband at home, about as nice a guy as they come, can't bring her to climax.
I should emphasize, nice guy, not Nice Guy, the proper noun referring to incel-like figures who are not quote-unquote "really" nice and therefore deserve their emasculation. This contradiction is at the heart of a lot of mainstream gender ideology. Men must aspire to be nice guys, but never Nice Guys, and good luck figuring out what the difference is when the way their behavior is described is nearly identical.
The feminization of boys is a VITAL concern.
Watching the therapist scene in ADOLESCENCE was excruciating. I couldn't help wondering whether it was deliberately unveiling the corruption that comes with this feminization project; why on earth did they sit this boy down with a woman who assumes he's a dreaded 'incel' seething with violence -at the age of 12?
What we have is women PROJECTING malice onto boys and men -- a narcissistic ploy to undermine them -- and CONTROL them.
Then we turn around and wonder why there aren't any 'good men.'
This essay (excellent work btw) reminds me of a boyfriend I had in my 20s, in the 80s, in the early aftermath of 'just get out of the marriage if you're not happy' era. His father for whatever reason had gone, leaving him to grow up in a houseful of sisters, supported by the church (this was in Amsterdam). I met him when he was 28; he was alarmingly unambitious, and had a serious drinking problem. He'd just gotten surgery, and took me to task -- practically weeping -- for not fawning with concern.
I remember thinking at the time that -- well -- I simply expected him to get on with it. He was a man, wasn't he? The pouting was particularly unattractive to me.
His sisters wound up getting him a better job, because THEY had better jobs. Then his wife became the breadwinner because SHE had a CAREER. He drank his feckless self into a death of despair.
I've been reflecting on his story, and the story of my ex-husband -- both men who, in the 70s, were betrayed by their fathers...and in my ex-husband's case, by his mother as well. Suffice to say, both men were broken almost beyond repair.
So this matriarchy we're in -- it's destroying boys and men. I'm not sure what the solution is. I've been arguing for revisiting the habit of divorce, which women in particular (not men, interestingly enough) seem to resist. But growing up in a culture that insists boys not act like boys -- with little opportunity to roughhouse and all else -- is going to take down our entire civilization, in the end.
Say what you will about Trump -- he's acting like a real man. Setting boundaries. Asserting authority. Dubious people do not belong in our country. Full stop. We have a culture and a country to protect. I've seen plenty of women bleeding hearts over that MS13 Kilmar guy. They just can't seem to perceive the wolf at the door.
"Of course, most men do not now perform difficult or dangerous jobs. Most of them don’t even perform real work (in our country at least)" you made this comment in the otherwise fantastic article but this comment confuses me. I don't have any data on the actual numbers but I would guess at a very minimum there are at least 10 blue collar workers for every man working in an office. The majority of those jobs are both difficult and dangerous. (All tradesman ie, plumbers, iron workers, carpenters, farmers, welders, miners, rig workers, electricians, Equipment operators and so on) and then of course law enforcement and the armed forces are skewed heavily male. Anyway, my two bits. Otherwise thought it was a really brilliant article.